SomeWhere In Medeiros Time

Somewhere In Medeiros Time:
I have been a dancer since age three hailing from Boston, Mass. Trained classically, and in all types of dance but through a series of interesting events I ended up being a ballroom dancer. Let me begin.
At age sixteen I had just won a beauty pageant-talent contest in downtown Boston at the John Hancock building. It was called “Little Miss Lovely.” It had age categories for all.I was in the 15-18 year old age division. After two days of competition one of the prizes besides a new stereo was a scholarship to the Hart Modeling Agency located in Boston.I attended a series of summer classes in TV spokesperson, fashion, commercials, make-up and acquired my first set of head shots. Our graduation was a big runway show for all to attend. As we were rehearsing this graduation I told the director that I would dance and be happy to choreograph the whole thing. She seemed surprised a little reluctant but agreed. I chose the song from Sly and the Family Stone called “Dance To The Music.”Everyone including the graduates performed and loved it.I graduated with honors but decided I was not a model but a dancer So I continued my the Boston area. I would drive home at night either by myself or with a family member and we would pass a studio in Wellesley Mass. called The Mary French Dance Studio. I would always see the ballroom dancers taking class through the huge glass windows as we drove by and I loved it! This continued for a few more years and by this time I was attending Mass Bay Community College still in Wellesley and still passing by Mary French Dance Studio. One day out of the blue the director of the Hart Modeling Agency called me. She was opening up her own agency and wanted me to conduct some classes for her in movement, poise and runway walk for her new students. She was renting space at the you guessed it… Mary French Dance Studio.I showed up with the correct paperwork in hand and began the Saturday morning lessons. In between classes I would walk around the room and stare at the pictures on the wall.I always stopped in front of this one picture and was just mesmerized by the energy of this couple. Now of course I adored Sissy and Bobby from the Lawerence Welk Show but their was something about this man in the picture. He had a Valentino, Elvis Presley charisma way about him.

I graduated college in 1977 ready to head to Broadway and through a series of karmic events ended up dancing with Mr. Richard Diaz as a professional ballroom dance couple instead. Competing in the American Style which at the time was Foxtrot, Swing, Bolero and Mambo.Mr. Diaz had recently left the Fred Astaire chain already an established champion but because we were an independent team were excluded from all the wonderful coaching available to the chain couples. So we traveled to New York regularly, took Afro-Cuban Jazz classes with all the greats at the time and went clubbing at the Corso to practice all the rhythms with live latin bands and music. With that under our belts we became proficient in the Mambo and known for our unique style and rhythms.

So lets move forward to about 1982 or 1983 to a competition that was being held at the Bradford Hotel again in downtown Boston.We were in the final and we placed third. First was the amazing Charlie and Jean Penatello, second was Patrick Taverna and Rebecca Francour. BUT we had taken straight first’s in the Mambo across the board. I remember the competition like yesterday.

After the competition was over a very dark haired man approached me pointed his finger at me and said “You, your my girl! And the only woman on the floor! Be downstairs tomorrow morning to partner me in my seminar”. I didn’t think anything of it since I had never met the man but in the back of mind there was something so familiar about him.I just couldn’t connect it up.Toward the end of the evening when we were winding down I mentioned to Mr. Diaz about what this man had said and I described him with this huge black mane of hair like a lion. Mr. Diaz’s eyes popped out of his head and calmly told me I had been picked out of the crowd by none other than the greatest latin dancer in the world Mr. Bob Medeiros. And then it dawned on me where I had seen him before pictures of him and Sheryn Hawkins were all over the walls of Mary French’s studio. I showed up the next day we danced a Bolero for the crowd I had never experienced anything like him before in my world and of course I was smitten for life. He became my mentor, coach, confident and friend and he skillfully guided myself andMr. Diaz to become the first world champions for the United States in Mambo.The rest is history.

I am honored to have been asked to contribute an article for the fortieth anniversary issue of Dance Week. I met the brilliant Dr. Charles Zwerling through Medeiros.Once again this proves we are all connected by six degrees of separation. Congratulations to DanceWeek for all its years of success and many more to come. And you know I will be attending the tribute to Bob Medeiros at the BBCC to be held September 16th Friday night at the Park Plaza. Hope to see you all there.

Interestingly enough I don’t think I ever told Medeiros of how I first encountered him and his pictures back in my youth even after all the years we shared together. But I know he knows looking down guiding us all and dancing for joy in heaven. For you see Mr. Bob Medeiros is truly timeless!

Respectfully, Bonnie Diaz August 22, 2016 All rights reserved.

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The power of words and who decides your potential?

potential word cloud

Based on the teachings of Mahendra Trivedi.

As we grow older and somewhat wiser we may begin to feel a little emptier. Specifically as we enter our 40’s and 50’s. We confront our mortality we watch our close friends and family suffer, transition, cross over or ascend. We become aware of those less fortunate and feel that luxuries are not as important as our overall health and well-being.

Continuing up the ladder of consciousness our life purposes may alter. What once mattered now means very little. This is a good sign. It shows that you are deciding  your own potential. Age and wisdom allow you to change perspective about yourself and the worlds around you.You will start surrounding yourself with those who share the same viewpoints and consciousness as you. You might become aware that some fellow human beings, life partners or coworkers are not your well wishers. They have lost many opportunities in their own lives and generally put others down to feel successful or secure. Staying connected with them in any way shape or form technically gives up your power of free will and allows the perspective of others to determine your potential. To your surprise you actually may feel better with out them.

Words are very important and how you define them and what they mean to you. Some examples:

Information: Acquiring new data. Not a bad thing but may bring about the emotion of excitement. Sadly it is not consistent and you will eventually crash waiting for the next wave or bit of info to surface.

Knowledge: Practical application or knowingness of data which results in calm and confidence. Or peace of mind. This of course is what we strive for. Peace of mind no matter what the situation or outcome. To have no attachment or desire the ultimate goal.

Illusion: A mirror image or deception regarding mind and body.
Delusion: A mirror image regarding mind and body that is not real.
So what is reality? Reality is your spirit and soul.

Spirit and soul your GPS system or what Magnum PI would wisely refer to as “his little voice” secretly knows what is going on. Not listening to your spirit and soul just damages your growth in the end. And usually manifests in many physical, mental and emotional illnesses.

Spirit-Reality are constantly monitoring satisfaction of experience as well as saturation of experience. Moving through these two stages will help to process to true happiness. Or no desire!

And lastly the words demand or command.

Demand: To force an order or action which your spirit knows goes against its own grain, gut feeling or instinct. It is usually fear based. A current trend which is quickly altering.

Command: Being so tuned in to your own consciousness and confidence that your position in the universe brings you all you will ever need to survive and yes even the ability to decide your own potential. This by the way is what great leaders are made of. People that have this quality not only bring out optimum potential in others but are followed into any situation or battle without anyone batting an eyelash. What we are all capable of becoming.

Surround yourself only with situations or people who are your well wishers and pay attention to your words and thoughts and you too can create and decide your own potential. Start today!!!

Bonnie Diaz
© Copyright May 2014
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Realm Reading for Ballroom Dancers. Or: Do you suffer or struggle?


Becoming a Certified Angelic Realm Reader is the best thing that has ever happened to me. It has allowed me to recognize dancers body language and human behavior that I have been notating for years. But most of all clarifying my own experiences of why some things for me were successful and why some things failed. Sometimes more than not experiencing that people didn’t get me, I them or that I just didn’t fit in. And last but not least the classic definition of insanity-suffering.“Doing the same thing over and over again and waiting for the change”

But first to acknowledge what has motivated this work. Are you suffering or struggling?Suffering is bad struggling is good. To be successful at anything requires a lot of hard work and perseverance.Struggling allows you to build character, knowledge and courage.And if you persevere you will most likely become a success and achieve your goals.If you are suffering you are in the wrong place doing the wrong thing with the wrong people or situation. Deep down your soul and spirit know this. And to add insult to injury one may have some kind of dependency or addiction to food, alcohol or drugs to either ease the pain or give you enough motivation to show up to get through the day. Been there, done that and have the t-shirt.

Today in this article I will address the four basic core realms and what their tendencies and characteristics are.
They are: Incarnated Angel, Incarnated Elemental, Star Person and Wise One. There are many combinations and hybrids among these four realms but just identifying who is what will make a difference if you suffer or struggle in your dance relationships,personal life,career, health or finances. Please remember I am not negating that all originated from the great Divine but we are made up of different genetic races on this planet.I will end each description with specific details of each realms unique eye qualities.

The master of the Angelic Realm Reading is the amazing Doreen Virtue of the prestigious Hay House organization. The brief partial descriptions I give today are from her book Realms of the Earth Angels available at Hay House publishing. A must read for all interested and her courses are available online as well.

The Incarnated Angel:
Have sweet heart shaped faces.
Have codependent relationships with addicts and alcoholics.
Have over eating or weight issues
Are professional helpers such as teachers, flight attendants, nurses and counselors

Famous Incarnated Angels: John Goodman and Elizabeth Taylor
They have pure, sweet innocence in their eyes, radiate unconditional love much like a baby deer’s eyes.

Incarnated Elementals:
They look like their name sake. Fairies, elves, pixies incarnated animals.
Do not like rules
Have mischief in their eyes
Elementals love to party
Have fiery passionate personality styles. Can have a Celtic heritage or appearance

Famous Incarnated Elementals: Julia Roberts, Robin Williams

The eyes of the Incarnated Elemental show twinkles of mischief or playfulness.

Star People:
Have always felt their “home” is another planet or star system
Have strong interests in Sci-Fi, UFO’s, space travel and ET’s.
Many use their hands to make a living. Landscaping, construction, massage and a lot of star people are Reiki Healers.

Famous Star People: Oprah Winfrey and Keanu Reeves are reputed to be star people with high minded purposes who are using the media to teach.

Star People have unusual looking eyes such as exotic iris color or uncommonly shaped eyes or eyelids.

The Wise Ones:
Have cardiovascular health conditions
Prefer their hair and clothes long and flowing with no restrictions
Are working with Earth based spirituality such as astrology, crystal healing, kabbalistic magic, herbology to name a few.

Famous Wise Ones: Johnny Depp and Angelica Houston

The Wise Ones eyes reveal deep wisdom, knowingness and often sorrow from  witnessing the history of Earth and humanity. They may have well earned bags or shadows beneath their eyes.

What I have shared is direct information from Doreen Virtues work and I am only giving you the reader a taste of what her work is about. Again there are numerous sub-categories to these basic four core realms and many blended realms and hybrids. Since becoming certified in this work it has been the missing link to complete my own personal mission. Ballroomology℠ The Art of Moving Meditation℠.  Combining Spirit, Mind and Body. This of course will be the spirit work which I feel is a main missing ingredient to the world of ballroom dance. My guru Mahendra Trivedi always says “You are 99% spirit and 1% body.This is how I will present my work teaching and coaching around the world making dancers and non dancers alike aware of their realm and if other realms are compatible with them or not.

Can you imagine being able to recognize someone in your realm and know whether to begin or stay in a relationship based on that information? Or if it is worth it to dig in your heels and work it out with someone from a different realm. Having all that data at your fingertips and being able to apply it to your own situation in life results in not suffering but struggling for your dreams and life purpose. A cause well worth fighting for? You bet! Pick the color of your wings and fly……

© Bonnie Diaz. All rights reserved May 2014
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Get Out of Your Own Way


Watching the presidents state of the union address last night I was very impressed with how he had in my opinion decided to empower himself for the up and coming years to come. A born humanitarian, orator and negotiator he made me feel that he had finally taken the high road long enough. It seemed to me that what he was referring to after years of being blocked on all sides was that he was finally taking matters into his own hands to get the ball rolling and get it done. I am not a political person but I am what one would call an informed person. These last several years have been difficult for many in all areas of life. According to our higher sources this year of 2014 is the “action” year. And in my opinion his speech was a confirmation of just that.

His commitment to “get out of his own way” and just move forward type of attitude knowing it would all turn out for the best was very soothing to my soul. I feel I am doing the same thing for the first time in a long time. Creating gentle boundaries in my life with personal and business decisions, saying no when I would have never dreamed of it or had the nerve to do so. Initially I was dealing with lots of stress and anxiety when I finally realized I was acquiescing to others out of fear. Someone might not like me or I might not get that judging or coaching job. In the end it just held a lot of underlying resentment and after all these years I can still reconfirm I receive no enjoyment or satisfaction what so ever from those type of fear based decisions.

Not that I have the issues and responsibilities that our president has but I was impressed with myself that I could relate on a no fear factor and be proud of him and myself at the same time.

Why not get out of our own way with ballroom and latin dance. It is so difficult to work with a partner and acquire a result. The reoccurring stimulus of the pressure of winning, losing, making a final must be possibly what the president has felt every time he has been blocked or vetoed trying to progress forward. But he has stayed calm and cool under fire, carried on with integrity, ethics, efficiency and competency at all times and to my eye stayed true to himself. But I am sure there were great prices to pay.The news commentator kept mentioning how gray he had become. Really?

When dancing with a partner and being haunted by fear, unhappiness, failure, rejection it is time to get out of your own way. Not to depend on that other person for emotional, spiritual, mental support etc….Even though I am sure that is the ideal. While trying to produce a product and appeal to others for marks and status is a conundrum due to the fact that most couples make they’re living through a competitive venue. You most likely are doing things that you are not sure of, make no sense to you or just doing what someone else may have suggested to you possibly believing you may get the gold and title this time around. If that doesn’t work it might be time to get out of your own way and enjoy your own process. Of course it may be difficult if you and your partner are not on the same page but I have learned to have a relationship with me myself and I. The only person I stay true to is my inner guidance system- little voice and the Divine up above which in turn channels light and information throughout my heart soul and very being. By allowing this to develop into a love based relationship with oneself and the divine it creates a pretty amazing peace of mind.This is the true concept of the law of attraction. I admit I have a story board with pictures, meditate and pray daily, receive constant messages from the angels but that does not always achieve your goals and bring home the bacon. By learning to connect with the Divine through ones pure and positive thought patterns vibratory and energy levels definitely change things for the better resulting in like attracts like. Releasing old comfortable patterns which are fear based especially enhanced by competition dancing. It is a very large nut to crack and I of course admit I could NOT do this while I was competing. And if I may be so bold as to point out everyone is “fighting for the same piece of scrap”. But spiritual awareness has begun the higher powers say that our Golden Age will be completely upon us by 2027. I hope we are here to enjoy it.

I understand that dancers, competition organizers, studio owners all make a living at these venues but their will come a time when more than less will walk away from the field with an empty cup. In other words non fulfillment. This is ones most important time. You look back on what you have accomplished or tried to or how you think you failed. You can’t go back but you can change your perspective on yourself and others around you as you move forward. People operating in a fear based energy normally cannot be around someone based in strong love energy because they have no control or effect on them. And that is why after so many years people shifting or developing toward our golden age walk away from people, places and things that they thought would be a permanant fixture in their lives or each others. They seem to wake up from a sleep like state and everything has a new and different meaning or none. I hope this happens for all if not already most.

I think our president last night showed an amazing amount of courage in his perception,awareness  and presentation. I also know that everything is for a reason and predestined. I am sure he is the precursor for Hillary Clinton. I think his job this time around was to clear the way for environmental changes, racial and marital equality ,create a workforce with a united front to mention a few things and prepare the transition from the old world order to the new. Our next president will most definitely be a woman and because of Barack Obama’s legacy, true heart and light energy many things will continue to unfold before our eyes. Acknowledging the divine feminine as our countries future leader can only enhance the world of ballroom dance.

I hope this energy ripples through out the universe and affects the wonderful artists, dancers and organizers in the world of ballroom dance. May they all love themselves and the divine first, share that with all they come in contact with second and last but certainly not least get out of their own way and enjoy the process. So be it!

Bonnie Diaz
© All rights reserved January 2014

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Musicality! “People hear what they see”

ImageMusicality: • awareness of music and rhythm, esp. in dance: the audition panel was looking for coordination, musicality, and flexibility.

 Consider that musicality is an overall sensation or perception. The above definition implies the connection-coordination of something visual as one is experiencing sound. Actions produced with specific rhythms hopefully make a pleasing audio-visual experience for the audience, participant or observer.

The definition of musicality is an interesting subject especially regarding Ballroom Dance. So many venues to discuss and talk about. If you look at the old MGM musicals they are unbeatable. Of course they had amazing performance artists Fred and Ginger, Gene Kelly and the rest. But those super stars were also in a controlled environment.Those dancers knew each beat of music way before any performance as well as being supplied with character costumes, lighting, camera angles and of course as many takes as it took to get it right. One really couldn’t go wrong. It is pretty much the same with the current DWTS’s TV show. Remember Michael Jackson’s “Thriller” for a Paso -Doble?  Is this choice of music authentic? Perhaps not, BUT very marketable and camped up enough for the desired effect.They might not get as many takes to get it right but because of numerous rehearsals to pre-chosen music they have a great opportunity of producing their specialized routine. And last but not least let me share the memories of dancing the Cha-Cha at Blackpool to the infamous  song“Talk to the animals”. I saw extremely talented dancers in that venue actually  make me believe that was an authentic Cha-Cha. Talk about “cheeky”!  A memory that will live with me forever.“People hear what they see”  

I recently attended the Broadway musical Kinky Boots. It was AMAZING!!! The full package! Tremendous audience connection-participation and top quality performance artists on all levels. Producing a beautiful message of learning to love and accept one another as the end product. I am still smiling from the experience. The perfect musical coordination of past, present and the future of where many performance artists are heading. Encompassing Spirit, Mind and Body!

But lets get back to musicality in a competition venue. I have heard many wonderful lectures on how Ballroom Dancing has to be more authentic and connected to its “roots.” Dream on! Moving forward in todays society we have very few meeting places or venues to go out dancing to big band-orchestra’s that produced those beautiful Ballroom Dancing sounds. Never mind the disappearance of the authentic Latin Clubs to visit and dance to artists like the late Tito Puente etc…One can go to practice nights at the local dance studio but they seem to be geared more toward the competition rounds and wins. Not wrong but that seems to be where the current music has led and influenced todays dancer. And of course todays house music-hip hop etc influences EVERYTHING!  Who knows what those excellent musical directors or D.J”s will play on that day? History and authenticity are important principles. Good to share, to teach and pass on but sometimes not always realistic in todays competitive world.

From what I have observed due to the influence of the sport like energy in the ballroom field today’s dancer has very little chance of connecting to any kind of musicality unless they rehearse (aka: re-hear) to a wide range of songs before a competition or dance a solo where they can hit accents and highlights for all to enjoy. Time wise not always an option. Especially with so many dances to learn, competitions to attend and so many coaches to please.

This lack of connection to the music sadly in my opinion does not really encourage the dancers, especially the up and coming youth to develop their own personalities. That is what is so pleasing to the eye and ear to experience. To watch those personalities develop. Those young dancers are doing what they are told and imitating what they see and hear. Who can blame them? “People hear what they see”

But I have witnessed some terrific performances by dancers of all ages who are so well rehearsed and tuned into each other that they seem to be dancing in their special bubble and actually connecting with the music on the day. I take my hat off to them. In the gladiator like arena of the competitive ballroom dance world musicality seems to be the last thing on most peoples mind. I am sure they are dealing with many factors: Partnering, technique, floor craft, costume malfunctions, etc..very little time to make it around the room to be seen. A lot of stress and very little time to produce their hearts desire.

I have no exact answer to help these young performance and dance artists in the ring, on the way up or trying to hold a slot. All I can say is if you are true to yourself at all times, have the intention of producing organic movements, rhythms or actions that you can relate to you might just might make an impact next time around.

I will close by sharing a story from my mentor the late great Bob Medeiros who literally followed all the latin bands around the country like a groupie because he was “obsessed” with the rhythms and sounds they produced.

After dancing for the first time in England he came off the dance floor and complained to his then coach the brilliant Mr. Walter Laird that the bands were not playing correct or authentic rhythms for him to dance to. Mr. Lairds response to him was  “ Boy make up your own”. So when he went out for the next round of the Samba he would cluck his tongue and sing the rhythms out loud to his partner who at that time was the sensational Sheryn Hawkins. From that point on they always sang or communicated rhythms to each other as they danced so they had a common sound between them. They put in what they wanted to hear in the music so people could see what they heard.  Once again kudos to Mr. Laird, and a much more satisfying experience Bob assured me many a time.

Can competitive couples do that today?  I am sure many can. Maybe this will encourage dancers having difficulties hearing, feeling or producing rhythms and actions in their bodies. If one is enjoying the connection to the music and relating to a partner as they dance there is a very strong possibility someone in the audience or on the judging panel will enjoy it with them. And that is a good thing. Walking away from someone’s performance connecting with their interpretation of a Waltz, Bolero, MGM musical or the coordination of a Broadway show. Hearing, seeing and feeling what they felt and smiling because you shared it with them. That is musicality. That is worth the price of admission!  “People hear what they see.” Open your ears and see it.

Bonnie Diaz
 copyright June 2013
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Amazing Grace


Amazing Grace.

                                    I can remember that song being sung at many weddings and funerals. And interesting as to why that song is sung at these particular occasions. Beginnings and endings. My biggest memory is when Elvis Presley “The King” of Rock and Roll sang it. I thought how amazing is that. “Elvis The Pelvis” chose to sing that song? I knew he had gospel roots but what motivated him to stay connected to that sound or even to those words or expressions? Grace amazing grace.

                                                    What is Grace?
1 simple elegance or refinement of movement: she moved through the water with effortless grace.
• courteous goodwill: at least he has the grace to admit his debt to her.
• (graces) an attractively polite manner of behaving: she has all the social graces .
2 (in Christian belief) the free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.
• a divinely given talent or blessing: the graces of the Holy Spirit.
• the condition or fact of being favored by someone: he fell from grace because of drug use at the Olympics.
3 (also grace period )a period officially allowed for payment of a sum due or for compliance with a law or condition, esp. an extended period granted as a special favor: another three days’ grace.
4 a short prayer of thanks said before or after a meal: before dinner the Reverend Newman said grace.

With all these definitions pick one and see how they apply to ones soul, one’s spirit, a dancing partner, a performance or life situation. Which one of these definitions resonates with you? Does your partner or situation resonate with the same definition? Maybe different definitions apply to each situation accordingly. Or their could be one that is a constant through out.

Is being graceful an action someone is born with or is it a learned skill they develop through life experiences. How does someone become a graceful spirit, dancer or human being? How much energy does it take to develop an awareness of self and all those around you to treat each encounter as a “moving meditation”? A moving “graceful” meditation. Dancing with a partner in some form of a dance venue. Social, practice, competitive or performance. Should it not contain some state of grace.

When watching someone perform in any venue why do we experience some visual-performance artists as graceful and some not? How can people be graceful in a social situation and not on a dance floor and vice versa? Can dancers, artists and the like be mechanically and technically correct and still be graceful? Maybe, maybe not. It’s perception I suppose.

Is it like Martha Graham implied when you walk out on to that stage you are naked you cannot hide your soul. Is she suggesting that what is really present is a spiritual being in the form of a body.  Are we just a funnel or channel for the universal flow of energy called dance? Do other artists, painters, singers, carry this divine energy within to make them above and beyond the rest? Is this what created the da Vinci’s and Monet’s of this world.

Example: The seven Chakra’s of the body. We all have a central energy channel in our bodies hooked up to a higher power. Call it what you like but it does exist. Spiritual masters have written and lectured about them for centuries whether you are aware of it or not. Why could Mozart compose at age three? There are tons of examples like this through out history many existing in our time and of course many more to come.

If the lower chakras are more activated in a person does their dancing become more earthy, grounded, weighted or sexual? Do they become a sexual predator if their energies are out of balance? Have they fallen from grace. If a person’s upper body chakras are more dominant do they become a more light and ethereal heart energy. Is that what creates the great spiritual leader the Dalai Lama or shapes that lithe ballerina Gelsey Kirkland?

Can people who are predominant with different energy centers work, play or dance together in a state of grace? Can people activate these energies upon will or are we gifted with a certain energy in our bodies to give us our style, personality or life purpose? Can the one chakra of the heart be the true channel for all definitions of how to achieve and maintain grace and connect all as one. If one and all dance and live with an open heart can this change the perception of dance, and life as we know it on the planet. Possibly yes! I am sure at times one comes to a point in their lives where they have accomplished everything and it means nothing.  

Did great artists like Elvis Presley and Whitney Houston with their gospel backgrounds loose their original connection of loving what they do. Being gifted with a state of grace. Why did they end up with a monkey on their back and have to leave this planet way too soon? Are they not recurring and classic examples of the gifted human spirit falling from a state of grace? I am of the personal belief that all beings are born with these gifts but loose them along the way for what ever reasons.

It’s perception. Example: Our eyes are not really seeing they are just the vehicle our brain uses to perceive what is happening. If we go to different galaxy’s and solar systems(of which their are millions) there are sure to be different colors, sounds, languages that we are not conditioned to receive or perceive like we do on this planet. Therefore can we not become aware of a different energy to coexist with our fellow human being in a new and perceived state of grace. Dancing included?

This is the year of the snake, a number six year, the age of love, the age of Aquarius. Can a person who does not look like a super model or an A list movie star achieve a state of grace? Of course they can. We all feel a glimpse of it when we remember but we have been conditioned to forget. Open your heart to receive and give love. Make this your priority and you will be rewarded and transported into a constant state of grace. In the end that’s all that matters. Operating in a state of grace requires extreme concentration and awareness to stop judgement of your fellow human being, disconnect from all monkey mind chat and perceive everything with an open heart. The only cure.

The definition of emotional trauma is “waiting or expecting someone or something to give you fulfillment”. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and waiting for the change. Did it for years it’s NEVER going to happen.The only thing you can keep working towards is that open heart and love connection with yourself and the divine power up above. What ever that is for you. Your perception. It will give you peace of mind, safety, healing and allow you to handle any situation with grace and style. Who can ask for anything more.

I think if Elvis and Whitney could chat with us all right know they would smile, possibly hint at some of their mistakes, hope that we have learned quickly from theirs. But what if all they said was pick a definition of grace that resonates with you and life your life by it. Perception. It is so simple. We are born with it we all have free will to utilize it. Just don’t forget it! You will be truly amazed…grace amazing grace. It’s at the beginning and it’s at the end.

Bonnie Diaz
© copyright February 2012
creator of Ballroomology℠ “The Art of Moving Meditation”™ e-book now available

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Ballroomology℠ “The Art of Moving Meditation”

Heart Chakra

Heart Chakra

Again after researching and being on my quest for the meaning of life after Ballroom Dance I have finally come up with the tag line of which I feel finally describes how I feel about the world and the Art of Ballroom Dance. And what must be taught so we can contribute back to humanity through this venue.

I have been on a year long hiatus from life due to the sickness of a very dear friend who I finally laid to rest on October 3, this past year. I was his friend and caretaker. I was with him last December 2011 when he announced to me he had a “pancreatic” condition and was by his side for his final breath on October 2, 2012. This experience has altered my reality totally. Of course I have experienced the passing of too many animals, friends and relatives. But I have not been with them every single second of the transition. I can only describe this past year as having witnessed the crucifixion and the resurrection.

Which brings me back to the words the “art of moving meditation”. When you know that someone you are with may leave this earth at any minute you value every second with them and take nothing for granted. Be it walking to the diner for a meal, watching a favorite show, or just listening while they share their life review. I often wonder why I did not regard everyone in my life this way in the past. Perhaps that is my lesson this time around.

Every action and thought we shared in this past year was literally a “meditation”. We had our ups and downs but deep down we both knew this was it. I know we both tried to be as caring to each other at all times. If I had to help him up or down, give him an injection or medication, or just hold his hand I was so mindful of the type of touch he felt. I wanted him comfortable at all times no matter what. And I believe in my heart that I did accomplish this and that he was at peace when he passed. The most interesting thing  “Fritzi” shared with me was how he was now convinced that their was a God or something greater up there. Through out his whole ordeal he had NO pain. He was so grateful for that gift from the Divine.

So my goal from this point on is how do you help people to become aware of their actions to create the “art of moving mediation”. Ballroom dance is so important. It teaches people how to treat and be aware of one another. In partnering one must be aware of the others person comfort. If we do this the rest is happiness and joy. Or the state of mind where we are just being grateful for sharing the gift of dance. Art Imitates life or Life Imitates Art so we can go either way. But developing rehearsal and technical skills to be in the cloud, bubble or  a shared aura with your partner is the key. Being pure of heart with intent to do good. One can never go wrong.

Being so tuned into each others reality that we can align ourselves with each other’s energies and survive any storm or disaster be it hurricane Sandy or not placing in the final or not making the final at all. How you view, understand or touch each other should be sacred at all times on and off the floor. Finding joy in mistakes and turning them around to work for you. Creating memories that you can share as you grow and age is priority. And I assure you will age not matter how many Botox injections you receive.

This energy ripples to everyone you come into contact with. A community for the “Art of Moving Meditation” would be my goal. Practice all of your technique and footwork galore but in the end there is only love. Unconditional love which will guide you to make the correct decisions and behavior we all secretly want to be a part of. Experiencing joy and happiness in life and most importantly sharing it in dance. If one connects to their higher power or to the God of they’re understanding the spirituality and meaning of life finally has a priority. How you do that is up to you. But before your career and life are over this will be something to consider. There are the sleepwalkers that are stuck in their last title of yesteryear and possibly rule with fear and intimidation to a select few to either persuade them to take a lesson or coaching from them or hire them for your next competition. Or the dreaded they will”Not Mark You”. They are just cowards operating in extreme fear. I mean really what does that mean? You have put your life or your self worth or your values on someone or something like a number from a pen and from a person who possibly never experienced dancing or even made a final round.

How do you instill this state of mind into the up and coming generations? The youth I see in public and private or in studios or in competitions I have deep concern for them. They are our future. The time to teach them skills in “The Art of Moving Meditation” through unconditional love is now. Making the goal of winning means nothing. This is all so temporary. In the end we are all here on borrowed time. Why will people wait for a disaster to become a community and treat each other gently and with kindness? In my opinion they have no love for themselves of any kind. Being vulnerable is a very scary thing. Daring to have unconditional love for yourself,others and a connection with the God of you’re understanding will totally alter what is important in your life and what is not. Not having this open heart will keep you in fear and not allow you to become who you really are spiritually, emotionally, mentally and most importantly how you can help serve humanity through the “The Art of Moving Meditation” and Ballroom Dance.

Lastly I just want to address the word habits. Habits: A regular tendency or practice that is hard to give up. Think about it. Are your habits stopping you from becoming a fully operating functional human being in every area and aspect of your life? It’s easier to get drunk than to jog or exercise. Easier to walk past someone in need on the street and continue texting on your phone. Easier to walk away in dance rehearsal because your partner pissed you off last competition. One must refresh their motivation daily. It is not easy but this is a criteria to carry on as a human being and of course a Ballroom Dancer.

In closing would like to quote Buddha. I think he sums up my thoughts on Ballroomology℠ and “The Art Of Moving Meditation”

1. Human Birth is hard to attain and extremely precious. We must do something of value with the opportunity.

2. All things are impermanent. The body that we are so attached to will soon be a corpse.

3. Karma is an immutable law. The results of our actions will return to us, so we must plant good seeds.

4. Samsara, the world of perpetual desires in which we have been trained to live, creates endless suffering. We must rise above it for our own benefit and the benefit of all beings.

I am so grateful to “Fritzi” for choosing me and allowing me to witness all of the above. I know I will continue to do him proud.

Bonnie Diaz
creator Ballroomology℠ “The Art of Moving Meditation”

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